Woman of God,

Can I speak to the part of you that still feels lost?

The part of you that smiles in public but silently asks:
“How do I become a daughter to God when the people who were supposed to love me abandoned me?”

Because abandonment does something deep to a person.

It makes you question your worth.
Question your voice.
Question if you matter.
Question if people stay.
Question if God stays too.

And some of you are older now…
but the little girl inside of you is still scared.

Scared to trust.
Scared to ask questions.
Scared to need people.
Scared to get close to God because you fear rejection all over again.

And I hear your heart saying:
“What if they mock me for not knowing?”
“What if I ask the wrong questions?”
“What if I look weak?”
“What if I’m too broken to be a daughter?”

But woman of God,
you do not become God’s daughter by being perfect.
You become His daughter by coming to Him honestly.

Romans 8:15 says:
“You received God’s Spirit when He adopted you as His own children. Now we call Him, ‘Abba, Father.’”

That word “Abba” means Father…
but not a distant father.

It means closeness.
Safety.
Comfort.
Relationship.

And I know that may feel unfamiliar to you because some of you never experienced safety correctly from people.

Some of you learned how to survive before you learned how to feel secure.

So now when God says “Come close,”
you panic instead of resting.

Because abandonment teaches people to expect rejection.

But God is not like the people who walked away.

Psalm 27:10 says:
“Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”

Receive you.
Not tolerate you.
Not shame you.
Not mock you.

Receive you.

And I need to say this gently:

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry for every time you felt unwanted.
I’m sorry for every moment you questioned your value because someone failed to stay.
I’m sorry you had to grow up carrying emotional wounds you never deserved.

And hear this clearly:
It was not your fault.

Children should not have to earn love.
Children should not have to beg to feel chosen.
Children should not have to carry abandonment into adulthood wondering if they are hard to love.

And some of you are still trying to become adults while healing from what happened to you as a child.

That is exhausting.

But woman of God,
there is another hard truth we must talk about:

You cannot fully experience God as Father while holding unforgiveness toward the people who failed you.

Because bitterness builds walls where intimacy with God is trying to grow.

And I know forgiving parents is not easy.

Especially when the wounds are deep.
Especially when the apology never came.
Especially when they abandoned you emotionally, mentally, physically, or spiritually.

But forgiveness does not mean what happened was okay.
It means you are no longer allowing the pain to control your heart.

Ephesians 4:31-32 says:
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Some of you are trying to hear God through wounded ears.
Trying to receive love through a guarded heart.
Trying to trust God while secretly expecting Him to leave too.

But unforgiveness can distort how you see the Father.

If earthly parents rejected you, you may unconsciously believe:
“God will reject me too.”
“If I fail, God will leave too.”
“I have to earn His love.”
“I’m too damaged to be fully accepted.”

But woman of God,
God is not asking you to carry the sins of your parents forever.

He wants to heal the little girl inside of you so He can father you correctly.

Hebrews 12:15 says:
“Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you.”

Because bitterness does not only hurt the people who wounded you.
It silently poisons the person carrying it.

And can I tell you something lovingly?

Some of your healing will begin the moment you stop asking:
“Why didn’t they love me correctly?”
and start realizing:
“Their inability to love me correctly was never proof that I was unworthy of love.”

That changes everything.

Jeremiah 33:3 says:
“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”

Notice:
God invites questions.
He does not shame hunger.

And yes, people may have mocked you before.
People may have made you feel small for not knowing certain things.
People may have used your vulnerability against you.

But please do not project human cruelty onto God’s character.

God does not humiliate daughters trying to learn Him.

He teaches them.
He covers them.
He walks with them patiently.

And can I tell you something honestly?

Some of you are waiting to feel “qualified” to approach God…
while God is simply waiting for you to come as you are.

Matthew 11:28 says:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Not performance.
Not pressure.
Rest.

So if you’re asking:
“How do I become a daughter to God?”

Start here:
Talk to Him honestly.
Cry if you need to.
Ask questions.
Read His Word slowly.
Forgive what hurt you.
Stop pretending you’re okay when you’re not.
Allow Him into the wounded places you’ve hidden from everyone else.

Because daughters are not built through perfection.

They are built through relationship.

And woman of God,
you are not too old to learn how to be loved correctly by the